NEVER let your history control your destiny

Being lonely, being alone sucks. But you have to understand that being with somebody who makes you feel bad about yourself or doesn't honor the person you are is worse.

We all make mistakes, we all at some point of time fall for those who are not worthy enough. But the important thing is to understand that if they do not respect/value our feeling then they are not worth that love, not worth our tears and definitely not worthy enough to break us down. The very thought they have about having the authority or right or lets say the power to play with our emotions, betray us and hurt us makes them unworthy of any of our attention. It’s vain to endure the pain, that vague feeling they leave us with.

But being a woman we cannot avoid our sensitive side, no matter how hard we try we never can be a stone hearted. No matter how much we try not to show the pain, we cannot stop feeling it inside. We may laugh and have fun just to let people around us think that we are happy, deep within we have this pang in the heart. We never stop looking for an answer. We believe there must be something wrong which can be corrected. We keep torturing ourselves with every possibility that may have promoted them to leave.

Even though they vanish without any explanation, we never give up. We just try to remain hopeful towards the possibilities of reuniting. We just keep on thinking may be this or that might have offended them, so we try to correct it hoping that it may make him return back to us. But the simple fact is we can either spend hours, days, weeks or even months and years over analyzing a situation; try to put the pieces together, try to justify what could've, would've happened or u can just leave the pieces on the floor n move on! (Source: twitter).

Moving on isn't easy. Never is. But many people have done it; all we have to do is believe that we CAN do it too(Source: unknown).It's hard to get over the phase, the phase of broken heart but we have no other choice. It's totally upon us to decide if we really want to stick with those bitter memories or we move on and not waste another damn second of our life thinking or regretting. The bottom line is no matter what we do we cant change the things that are done in the past, and fighting it won’t get us anywhere either so the most important thing is to get a grip and get over it cause it was just a mistake. And we all make mistakes and may be mistakes are what makes our fate... without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn't fall in love or gone through those dark phases we wouldn't be who we are (Source Unknown).

After all, things change, so do lives, and people come into your life and they go. You just have to believe that they don't have that power to control your life because it’s you and your decision that matters in the end. The very simple fact is that you can either move on with life, or dwell on the things you can't change. It might be harsh but the truth is hanging on to things which aren't adding value to your life isn't loyalty, that's stupidity (source: twitter). As Maya Angelou once quoted, "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." Similarly people we also got to believe that we can be changed by what happens to us but we should never let those things reduce us.

Sometimes we just have to hit the reset button, and start fresh. NEVER let your history control your destiny!